Notes from a Virgin Vegan: a four-part series

As a mother of a toddler and a practicing yogi, I have been thinking a lot lately about my family’s diet. First of all, you should know that not only am I a virgin vegan, but I am also a stranger to the kitchen. I know how to work our Keurig coffee maker, toast bread, make tuna salad and peanut butter and jelly, and that’s about the extent of it.

I think my kitchen phobia stems from a combination of an intense desire to be a feminist who wouldn’t be relegated to kitchen duty and my extreme disdain for uncooked meat. I also grew up with a mother whose joyful refrain was that the best thing she knew how to make was reservations.

Luckily, my husband does know how to cook, but he’s a meat-and-potatoes chef. I want to get more healthy vegetable entrees into our diet and to raise my daughter with a respect for food and an understanding of where the things she eats come from. I have also wondered if my fear of raw meat is really just masking my desire to refrain from meat-eating entirely.

Vicki Chelf at home in her kitchen

Vicki Chelf at home in her kitchen.

Artwork by Vicki Chelf on display in her home

Artwork by Vicki Chelf on display in her home.

This began to click when local artist and vegan chef Vicki Chelf gave a speech at my toastmaster’s club about her book, Vicki’s Vegan Kitchen: Eating with Sanity, Compassion and Taste. I was very intrigued. Vicki talked about the fact that Madison Avenue has done a number on all of us, convincing us that cooking was too difficult for working families and that eating out, ordering in, or eating prepared foods was the path to an easier, more fruitful life. In fact, she says, just the opposite is so.

Vicki said that cooking is easy and she works to demystify the process. She also said that we replenish and nourish ourselves with food, and therefore we should take greater care in making sure we know what we are eating. According to Vicki, no restaurant chef is able to prepare food as much to our own unique tastes as we can for ourselves.

The best part of Vicki’s speech was when she told us that she was 60. Mouths were agape, and you could hear a pin drop. We all sat a little straighter in our chairs (Vicki has perfect posture too) and paid rapt attention to this healthy dynamo.

So, when we at This Week in Sarasota made July our “staycation” month, I decided it was about time that I fell in love with the least-visited room in my house. What better staycation than to learn to appreciate local food cooked in my very own kitchen?

Vicki's Vegan Kitchen by local chef Vicki ChelfThankfully, Vicki was up to the challenge of working with this vegan virgin, and I am having a ball with her! We are cooking in her midcentury modern home graced with her artwork, much of which is food-related. And then, when we are done cooking, we share a meal. I am learning so much from this very wise woman.

Check in with me here on TWIS each week in July for another installment of my column, “Notes from a Virgin Vegan.”

Bonnie Greenball Silvestri


Bonnie Silvestri is Senior Fellow for Arts, Culture and Civic Engagement and an instructor teaching law classes in the College of Arts and Sciences at the University of South Florida Sarasota-Manatee. Prior to moving to Sarasota, she lived in New York City from 1996 to 2006. She received her Bachelor of Arts magna cum laude in English with a minor in Art History from Vanderbilt University and her Juris Doctor from The Michael E. Moritz College of Law at The Ohio State University. Most importantly, she is mom to the beautiful Daphne and wife of Michael Silvestri.